Qalbu Mukmin: GELORA BEACH RESORT..spending worth time with family

Sunday, February 5, 2012

GELORA BEACH RESORT..spending worth time with family

"The most important work you and I will ever do will be within the walls of our own homes."

- Harold B Lee-

Family defined many words and meaning, either they live heritable or adoptable, they were also family. How do it comes to harmony and peaceful family if it was not about love. Some people fall in love before they got married and some feel it after marriage. It was nothing to discuss if it was before, but the most important relation that we must care is after marriage. I got so many information about family in my Family Law subject. There were many understanding that my friends shared in class.

Some says, family is a unit of people who lived together that had blood link such as grandfather, grandmother, father, mother and children. however, some group object and says that, if they were adopted or live in welfare institution, they were also live in family.

This question bring me to search, so i found in wikipedia:

a family (from Latin: familia) is a group of people affiliated by consanguinity, affinity or co-residence.

however, there were some family could not control and solve their family problem and decided easily to get divorce. don't they think of other people? children, father or mother in law? is divorce is the right solution for family problem? no, i totally not agree. There must be many solution for this and if they had tried all this, i then agree for it. As a counseling student, i and my friends were given so many cases to solve and most of teenagers or adolescent who get involved in criminal or social problem comes from those who had a family problem. so, to cared of harmony life and happy family, we have to strengthen our bond of love. Family is the small and easy unit to be control compared to a villager or society. So, if we able to have a happy family, we will be a part of peaceful citizen and live in harmony life.

our Prophet had mentioned about "dovorce" in His hadith :

Matan Abu Daud

حَدَّثَنَا كَثِيرُ بْنُ عُبَيْدٍ حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ خَالِدٍ عَنْ مُعَرِّفِ بْنِ وَاصِلٍعَنْ مُحَارِبِ بْنِ دِثَارٍ عَنْ ابْنِ عُمَرَ عَنْ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَقَالَ أَبْغَضُ الْحَلاَلِ إِلَى اللهِ تَعَالَى الطَّلاَقُ.

Artinya: Kami (Abu Daud) mendapatkan cerita dari Kasir bin Ubaid; Kasir bin Ubaid diceritakan oleh Muhammad bin Khalid dari Muhammad bin Khalid dari Mu’arraf in Washil dari Muharib bin Ditsar; dari Ibnu Umar dari Nabi SAW yang bersabda:”Perkara halal yang paling dibenci Allah adalah perceraian.”

4 Reasons Why You Need Family Time

Maybe the reason why you can’t seem to find time to spend with your family is because you don’t think it is that important. Maybe you have other things that you think are higher on your list of priorities. Here are just a few reasons why family time is important:

1) You need to build deeper relationships within your family

Family ties are important. I’ve often heard it said that the reason why so many kids decide to join gangs are because they welcome them in and become part of a family. Your children need to feel like they belong. They need to feel like they have someone they can turn to, for anything. Spending time together as a family ensures that deep, strong, family bond.

2) You need to instill family values in your children.

With the startling numbers of marriages and divorces today, your children need to learn the importance of family values. Chances are, your children will mimic the exact behaviors you exhibit towards them. If you are an absent parent, they will be the same to their children in the future. More often than not, children often display worse behaviors than were shown to them. Spending family time together will build a sense of worth and instill positive family values in your children.

3) You need to teach your children important life lessons.

Whatever your child does not learn at home, you can be assured they will learn elsewhere. Do you want your children to learn important life lessons by having to experience pain? Of course, they will have to learn some things on their own. But it is so important to have time for family discussion, wherein you can lay problems or situations on the table, then talk about them with your children.

4) You need to build a stronger family unit.

All these things lead to one very important detail. By spending more quality time together as a family, you will build a stronger family unit. Your family will stick together through rough times, and enjoy fun times together as well.

Therefore, i really care of my loving family and hoping that we will get to together here after.